He cant even use the bathroom w out her whining to come in. Im married 13 years, we had a small dog for 8 years and she died from heart problems. I think I know who is wrong. And he hated even finding hair outside Also, every time we eat, he stands right next to us at the table breathing heavy and drooling and I tell him to go away and my wife tells me not to get mad at him. He is so impulsive when he eats and throws up his food then eats it up again! He said he didnt want to upset me but that now it was closer to being a reality with our move to the countryside, he couldnt deal with it. It IS selfish to let the dog continue carrying out said behavior(s) if youre unwilling to take the time to get to the root of the problem. He has never had a pet in his life and I am at the point where I would like to add a cat to the equation. And yes, she would get on all the furniture, including patio chairs. If I had known just how badly she shed before I got into a relationship with my boyfriend I would have turned him down. Shes a decently trained dog though, she knows to do her business outside, she listens after the third time you tell her and for the most part is well mannered. That was 7 years ago. Its really causing a strain on my pregnancy and my marriage. Hes constantly in the kitchen looking for food to eat! Even more frustrating, this 15 year old pitbull acts no older than 4 or 5 years of age. He knows his place in the pecking order. It makes me sick when I read all you haters comments. Her dog, physically, is unique and lovable. Change in the schedule. Some of them also found it odd that, as a dog owner, Im perfectly fine with the fact that some people dont like dogs. What they dont understand is that dogs would do this to another dog: its not love at least not in the human sense its just animal instinct with imaginary human characteristics being bolted on. And beau can sense it. Besides his being fanatical about the dog, he was very negative towards me (pointing out my flaws, blaming me for things I didnt do, putting me down, embarrassing me in public) because he was unable to control me. At that time I had an 8 year old yorkie (who is now 10) and my husband had never owned a dog before in his life. But hes so insistent on making him an outside dog. I tell him to get her off and he just thought it was no big deal -_- and in the pictures he was sending it felt like I was seeing a couple being all snuggly on two couches and he would tell me she would stare at when he wakes up or falls asleep. I just dont know what to do anymore. I cant take the smell, the constant whining, crying and begging, the accidents and just the overrall attitude of this king dog. I hope she knows she will always be my girl and no man will ever change that. He is a wonderful husband and father to our two kiddos, I love him dearly, but this is important to me at a level that I dont think he understands. But as the dog began to live with us, I began to feel pushed aside. [Nutritional Info], Read This If You Cant Sleep Without Your Dog [5 Tips], Read This If You Dont Have Time For Your Dog. I was just wondering if anybody could answer my question. The Japanese Chin has bitten nine other people that include young children and adults and most of those bites have broken the skin. He loves kids like I love animals. Why he can see that its gone this far. I dont even understand why she wants to keep it, she forgets to feed/water it at times. she also feeds them constantly from the table that encourages this bad behaviour. The house smells like ammonia and I cant be in that environment, my throat starts to hurt and its just disgusting. Pulls stuff off of counters, poops, pees, tears up the carpet has eaten door jams, broke through doors etc. Were never too old or too young to learn about ourselves and our significant other and make our human relationship the truly beautiful experience it can be. I actually feel with time, I will pity the man in the end. Im very attached to him. So I dont find it that unfair. Okay so I have a similar situation to Charlie. These all in his own words after I told him that I wasnt going to do what he had demanded. Maybe your husband or children have allergies to dogs. She should get the hint very quickly. Spoiled animal who is neither trained nor socialized. Im not gonna dig into that huge portion of the training. My bf humanizes his goldendoodle and does not set any boundaries for him. I just dont know what to do.. Dan, after 4 years of marriage with my relationship I was subjected to being valued less than my husbands dog, it basically came down to Hes not that I to you type of thing. What makes it worse is that my furbaby just got diagnosed with eplisepy and is now costing us a little bit extra in medication (Im talking $20 a month, nothing drastic) but my partner feels the need to rave on about how my dogs fine and faking it. Some signs of narcissism in your boyfriend include: jealousy, lies, selfishness, envy . I understand the love for animals, but people should also be realistic and its not like I move into a place that he already has with the dogs and kick them out. Its always been my choice to let that happen, as I was single at the time of getting him. Shes kind of mean to him tells me things like your dog is gross when hes licking himself between the legs (well, thats what dogs do). My wife and daughter and son are in a combined hate campaign against me because i put them out in the garden and leave them if im left in the house with them, she feeds them on expensive dentistix, and the wont eatbarley anthing else now. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Thanks for positive feedback anyone and negative feedback thank you as well. Its getting to the point where my boyfriend doesnt even want the dog in the livingroom anymore. I have a Boston terrier her name is Bailey I have had her for about 5 years.. My boyfriend has a 5 year old Great Dane and will never own another breed. These are lazy pet owners who just dont want to take the time to train/socialize their animals. Its to the point where if he does not get rid of her room, I am going to leave him. So I compromised by saying that the dog needs to stay out of the bedrooms if we would get married. Lets not forget the constant pictures of the dog taken with her phonesmh, I dont think its cool that she disregarded your feelings about dog on bed after you told her how you felt. Her constant whining has left me sleepless lately and Im trying some new techniques as she sleeps in the kennel. I love my husband, he is a fantastic man, in every way. Which I dont mind playing sometimes. We have been together 8 years and married for 6. I admit I have also spent considerable time and energy to train them to live with us in harmony. Julia, Forgive me when I say this but as soon as I finally was able to graba hold of him I immediately ran inside the apartment, and started to hit him on his bum bum and yell at him! He wants to get rid of the dog, but I know that this poor pup just needs some consistency, time, and a shot at unconditional love. Then you clearly dont understand the mindset of different people. Not today. So I searched and searched for a tiny dog. My sister has five dogs same thing. To allow your dogs behaviors and habits to ruin a human relationship is insane to me! His dog has been an issue since day one. An animal, is an animal. No amount of combing or baths on one of our hairy dogs can help her stinking or shedding. If you dont, he will cry and bark. Omg, I hate that. Now, we are back to this point where I have been bit by this dog now twice, she doesnt listen to me what so ever, refuses to eat unless its my wife who feeds her and Im nowhere around, is right there by my wifes side no matter what if shes not outside on her chain. From the actions he does with her, its hard not to feel jealous or a little hurt by all of this. Or when your dog is allowed to claw people, hump, jump on, bark at, ect ect what looks cool about this? Later I said, hed save me and blame me for the dog dying. Good marriages (and relationships) dont just happen. I just wish hed been honest about it and not let me go for this long looking forward to realising a dream and then having it shattered. I have a dashchund and my husband is so jealous of him.he only shouts at him when poor soul does not even do anyyhing wrong. Its frustrating because anything we plan revolves around her dog and if we can leave him at her parents. That dog needs to go, and if your S/O refuses to get it in check, then perhaps you need to go as well. My wife is now 5 months pregnant and asked if I could leave one of my dogs with my parents cuz shes overwhelmed claiming one of my dogs is ruining the sodas. It truly is frustrating.. I hurt inside feeling the way I do about this dog, and whenever I try to talk to my boyfriend about how I feel he just says its stupid your jealous of a dog, its just dumb. They can marry their damn dogs! My dog ran out the room first and me second. Hahahaha to funny & true! Your bf has anthropomorphized the animals into his lover. and respond to behavior modification with varying methods. I mean, he will come up to me after waking up maybe an hour or two after I have already woken and says he was on the bed and smirks about it like its a joke. Whatever you feel now, multiply times ten thousand, and that is how much you will hard the shedding when you live with him. When we started the relationship, it was big problems with his doga chihuahua. I argue they have zero quality of life. It is one of the excellent ways to keep your dog mentally stimulated throughout the day, making a well-behaved dog. There were so many other examples, but I believe this gives you a good idea of the hell I was living. A year on and he works full time and he cant take dog with him, I work from home so I look after both dogs, sometimes my partner doesnt even take them for walks in the evening as hes so tired from work and he gets upset if I dont go for a walk with him ,but its all right for me to walk the dogs during the day by myself. Why? My husband is constantly annoyed with our pets. I mean , they have their own beds, just like I do, and its not going to be mine. I have a dog as well, and like you, I hate having fur everywhere. My partner is so wonderful she had already done research on how to make our future home livable for me when I expressed my concern. I had expressed my wish to adopt a cat in the past couple of years and he had responded that, even though he liked cats, he was not willing to get one. They are always getting into the panty and eating us out of house and home, they poop and pee in the house still. So he has the entire morning to do this, but he "struggles to wake up". You have put it so beautifully. (She needs constant baths due to this) it really grosses me out. He isnt even searching for a home for them so I guess Ill have to. When she says I murdered it shes not being facetious; she literally believes, and has said repeatedly, that putting that dog down was dog murder despite the vet thought it was long past time. (Saliva most likely). It is extremely protective of its owner, its bed, food, etc. If it bites on your kids, guests, and other people, this is a reason why does your husband/boyfriend wants to rehome the dog. How many times have we apologized for getting into a bad fight only to get into another one a week later when he throws it in my face. He doesnt want to kennel a dog outside and I have to agree it is not ideal to do that. Its not fair that Beau is exposed to all of our negative behavior, and he just seems so miserable whenever my boyfriend is home. The dog is extremely destructive, and it chews almost everything in the house. I just dont know what to do. This has made someone lukewarm at best about pets someone who absolutely hates animals in the house. He wanted a baby so hopefully he will enjoy our baby. Trust me. On several occasions my wife has developed a sore on her lip that often takes a week or longer to heal. Does that lazzyness (sp) apply to other issues as well such as keeping the house clean? But we have suffered a lot of loss in the last few years so dealing with fleas and having the patience to teach a dog when and when not to bark is not something he is always up to do. Incorrect. I started using sanitation wipes and putting the dishwasher on sanitation cycle. Do you ever just feel like ending your relationship because of this issue? If you are confident you can please do ahead and try but if he carries on,please believe me,you are better off without your partner full stop. Im a germaphob and pretty OCD so you could only imagine how this disturbs me! Or am i being unreasonable and mean for not wanting to live in a situation like that? I have a 5 year old cat and a 9 month old Cocker Spaniel. I made myself very clear that I would not care for her dog in any manner and that if she wanted to keep it she needed to care for it. The thing is, i told her hes ok at the foot of the bed, i dont mind him on the bed if hes there and i had been telling her for 3 months to start training him but she jokingly would refuse to do so. Period! If the mouth sores are actually, oh, acne sores (sometimes acne around the mouth is painful, ugly, and very hard to treat), thats a bacteria == but same thing, any spread of acne bacteria should be fairly rapid. The dog will poo and pee, I refuse to live like that. Dogs begging at the table is not necessary and I didnt fight her on having the dogs in the kitchen, although they dont need to be in there while we are cooking either! It he loves you,he needs to understand that making you give up this dog would devastate you. So then we bought a tether type thing to chain her up. Just a thought. If you really dont have sufficient time to set aside your canine friend, check in your neighborhood. Who is going to care for it? To which she replies I thought you would. The last big fight we had that almost ended our marriage was me telling her she didnt have to take the dog with her everywhere, and needed to get the dog used to being at home by herself so whenever we are both working outside of the home, the dog is not going through separation anxiety. Dog nutters are mentally deranged. Allowing your dog to do human things is failing that animal in my opinion. IMO cooking for your dog is a little over the top and Id be annoyed by it too. But, it is still his dog and he is the one that gets to make that final decision, not you. That dog passed and we lived pet-free for about a year. Rather, he makes a long long list of excuses for her retarded manipulative behaviour. I said I knew he wasnt keen on yappy, exuberant dogs but having seen him fuss and cuddle my parents dogs and my friends puppy, how could I think he was scared of them? I never bother him at night, I go ahead and get up to quite him so he doesnt wake my husband who works very long hours. The dogs get along great together too. That was usually not the case. All my boyfriend has to say about it is that Beau acts weird around him. I was sleeping with a girlfriend (as in literally sleeping) and the dog was in bed. He mentioned it to me a month ago but we had a huge argument and never spoke about it again until the reality took place today. Suppose the dog bites your child got drew pretty much a considerable amount of blood and the child is afraid of canines, now the husband/boyfriend is correct beyond any doubt. Yet I find myself at the end of mine because as a human in a human relationship I cant understand why its so wrong for him to treat his dog like an animal. Hes very protective of our 2 kids, so we are fortunate for that. You are so right Pip. He sincerely believes his quality of life would diminish if he couldnt sleep with his furry friend and I know that I would grow to detest that animal. Everything was going great while it was just my girlfriend, her dog and myself. This makes me so sad. I hate dog/cat hair all over everything I own and I do not appreciate being disregarded so someone can pet, rub, snuggle, and baby talk their pet. She would say shes going to adhere to boundaries so we could all live in harmony but would go against that shortly afterwards so we would always butt heads because she would never keep her word. No way. Now he reacts this way mainly because he has a bad ear and the barking is like a knife inside his head. Yes its shown that some dogs can even reach the level of a 4 year old in emotional processing. Jake- Your so right on. Well that turned into a massive power struggle in which he would get mad every time I actually suggested/implemented anything because he thought I was either being unreasonable or somehow hurting his dog. The fur he leaves on the carpet is already a source of aggravation for us as it is. They cry & come & stare at me. I am glad he didnt have kids because if that is any signthose kids would be entitled and unsupervised. He moved to a condo and let me stay in the house. If I have to choose between my spouse and the dogthe dog loses all day everyday! Anyone who keeps a dog after its attacked a child is mentally deficient. im sorry youre going thru this.my situation is different..but i can totally relate to trying to train and work with a dog and having no one back you up or virtually undo anything you try to do with the dog to make progress..in your case it seems as if your ex is jealous of the bond you have with the puppy.the puppy is young it needs to have training i think yours doing a good thing for him and his dog. We came to a compromise and agreed to put a dog door in our patio, and that way the dogs have their water and good in there and can still go outside. Its just too much time with him even if he is doing his own thing parts of the day. Misery does love company, I guess. So he did. 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